5 First Date Mistakes Men Make That End In Heartbreak and How To Avoid Them

Written By Michael Webb
Let’s face it­­you never get a second chance to
make a first impression!

That’s why, if you want to take things further with
a woman, you need to show her your best on the very
first date. And in actual fact, there are 5 things
that men consistently do on first dates that
totally destroy their chances of seeing the woman
again, and the worst part is they think they’re
doing it right!

Avoid the following 5 mistakes to increase your
chances of success on your first date:
MISTAKE #1 — BUYING GIFTS

Bringing chocolate or flowers on a first date isn’t
the best idea – especially if you’ve just met the
woman! She’s there to get to know YOU. Women are
always asking themselves “what does THAT mean?” And
in this case it’s, “He bought me flowers because he
likes me, but he doesn’t even know anything about
me yet! A little suspicious.
MISTAKE #2 — BEING MR. SERIOUS

When in the presence of a potential date, men often
become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly
vibe they have with their friends. They won’t make
jokes or laugh with the woman, they won’t play
around like they do with their friends and they
generally take things a little too seriously. Why
do men change their behavior around women, often
without even realizing they’re doing it? Because
they fear losing their only chance with the girl of
their dreams, they try and play the safe side,
which results in a “Mr. Serious.”
MISTAKE #3 — CONDUCTING AN INTERVIEW

When men become “Mr. Serious” they often fall into
“job interview conversation mode.” Make sure you
reserve questions like, “So where do you work?” or
“How many brothers and sisters do you have?” for
the future, after you’ve already had a lot of fun
and made the sparks fly. Instead, talk about your
hobbies, interesting stories and fun stuff. Avoid
anything too deep for a long period of time. On a
first date, it can make things a little depressing.
Talk like you’ve known each other for years (as if
you don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions
quiz.) Of course you can ask basic questions, but
never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on
fun.
MISTAKE #4 — BEING TOO NEEDY & DIRECT

Without realizing it, many guys turn their dates
off by trying a little too hard. For example: Men
will lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask,
“so do you like me?” or constantly change his
opinion to seek her approval and make her like him.
Big mistake. Ironically, it’s leaning back, staying
cool and calm, being a little cheeky, interesting,
mysterious and comfortable with yourself that
actually gets a woman’s attention and keeps her
interested.
MISTAKE #5 — GOING TO BORING PLACES

If your date finds the night boring, you’re
finished. When it comes to having fun on first
dates, nothing is more important than what you do.
And while dinners and movies are nice, it’s really
hard to leave a great impression in these settings.
Why? Because they set a very “proper tone” that’s
hard to turn into fun and playful. And unless
you’re a super funny, intelligent and interesting
guy, dinner and movie dates just aren’t the best
place to take your date. Instead, go to fun places
like mini-golf parks, carnivals, parks, or even
better, come up with your own unique and fun ideas.

So in essence, while there are many factors to
having a successful date, a great date idea really
helps you do many of them naturally! Remember,
where you take a woman on a first date can be the
difference between a great night and a dating
disaster! Choose wisely!
About the author:

Oprah Expert Michael Webb is the author of 300
Creative Dates, a book jam-packed with unique ways
to help leave a great first impression without
breaking the bank! To learn more, visit: 300
Creative Dates,

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How to Attract Women: How to Impress Women

by James, Relationship Expert

Renee Grant-Williams, a celebrity vocal coach, says, “The people we deal with in life come to know us by the three ways in which we present ourselves: (a) how we look; (b) what we say; and (c) how we say it.” Obviously, this applies just as much to women as it does to men. If not more.

So if you want to impress women, you’re gonna have to carefully think about how you present yourself. Let’s look at each category.

A. How We Look

Whether you like it or not, dress is crucial. It says a lot about you: whether you care about how you look, or you don’t. But you don’t have to dress like a Hollywood celebrity to look good.

Here are some tips on how to dress for success:

1. Get a female friend or sister to help you pick your clothes.
If you don’t know what to wear, get someone who does know! Ask a female friend or acquaintance to go shopping with you. She’s sure to be flattered, and if you reward her with a gift certificate or DVD, she’ll be all the more motivated to help you out.

2. Check out the latest styles.
Go to the bar or club and see what others are wearing. Observe what the guys who do well with women wear. Look in magazines and catalogues and see what it’s in style.

3. Wear what conforms to your identity.
Hey, if you’re the hardworking, businessman type, wear formal clothes that accent your career. If you’re the snowboarder/skater type, wear grungy clothes that accent your loose, laid-back persona. And if you’re really into music, don’t be afraid to express yourself with the types of clothes that rock stars and musicians like to wear! You can’t force a style upon yourself; clothes are a form of marketing, so market yourself like you would a product, in the way that best shows what you’re all about.

The same goes for your hair: If you want to convey a clean-cut, crisp image, then you might want to shave and cut your hair short. But if you’re trying to convey a rebel image, a goatee, long hair, and tattoos are probably in order.

And speaking of tattoos, don’t forget that they are an ACCESSORY that further helps you to market yourself. Tats, jewelry, and even hats are great ways to mold your image to the man you want to present to women. If you’re a snowboarder, for example, a wool hat says “Cool”. Or if you’re an aspiring rapper or musician, a doo rag has a place in your wardrobe. Consider the accessories that best conform to you as a person.

B. What We Say

Here are some great topics to talk about:

* Your dreams.
Let a girl know that you have a purpose and direction in your life, that you’re not a wandering bum!

* Funny stories.
Humor is a great aphrodisiac. Think about some funny things that have happened in your life. But make sure your delivery is good–more below.

* Her.
The Dalai Lama said, “Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes one creates as significant an impression by remaining silent.” Don’t be afraid to let a girl speak for a while. Be silent, but be interested. Actively listen to what she says. It’ll go a long way towards upping the attraction meter!

* Teasing/Playing around.
This is a great technique, especially if you don’t know exactly what to talk about. Throw in an occasional joke or funny moment. I have a friend who has a great technique for handling silence. He laughs to himself, prompting the girl to ask, “What?” He’d say in a sly way that would invite curiosity, “Nah, you don’t want to know. I’m in deep thought.” She’d respond, “Tell me! Tell me!” So he’d do the whole Meow Mix song (”Meow meow meow meow…”). It’s just one of many great ways to lighten the moment, and show you’re a relaxed, none-too-serious person.

* Last but not least, sex.
One relationship guru brilliantly says, “TALKING about sex is the first step towards having it.” Ask her if she’s a bad girl, or what’s the craziest thing she’s ever done in her life—with a bit of innuendo added into your voice. This isn’t the kind of stuff you want to talk about right away, but when things are going good, it’s great to show your “inner bad boy”. She’ll know what you mean, and get excited thinking about it.

Likewise, here are some topics that you SHOULD NOT talk about:

- Offensive humor. Chris Rock’s racial humor may be entertaining, but it’s not a good topic for a first date!
- Politics. There’s nothing to be gained by arguing over issues and parties.
- Past girlfriends. An absolute no-no. All you do is play a game that makes one of you jealous or suspicious of the other. Stay away from this topic, but if she DOES ask you about past girlfriends, talk respectfully about them so you don’t come off as an insecure whiner.
- Inside jokes between you and your friends. They’re called inside jokes for a reason–keep them that way!
- Anything that could be interpreted as geeky or dorky, such as science-fiction. Unless you know for a fact that she’s into science fiction and comic books, keep it to yourself for now. The last thing you want to come across as is a geek!
- Too much about yourself, your possessions, how great you are, etc. Bragging only makes you look insecure. Even if you own a yacht, don’t talk about it like it makes you any more special than her.

C. How We Say It

Of course, none of these topics, particularly funny stories, are gonna work if you don’t know to deliver them. Delivery in speech is crucial. People who have good delivery can make an otherwise dull story an exciting one. I highly suggest you read “Voice Power” by the aforementioned Renee grant Williams. Here are some tips she recommends:

1. Use consonants.
That is, accent your speech. If you’re talking about a great concert you went to, no one will believe it’s that great if you say in a monotone voice, “That was a great concert.” That puts people to sleep. Instead, say, “Man, that was a grrrreat concert!” The Tony the Tiger voice. If she says something, don’t say as if you’re bored, “Really.” Say, “Rrrreally?”, then, with emphasis, “WOW.” It works!

2. Don’t use unnecessary words and details.
If you’re talking about a time when you and your friends went to Cancun, don’t bother with the unnecessary details like the food they served on the plane, the wait for the taxi, or the sheets they used in the hotel. Get to the point!

3. Silence.
As Williams says, Silence does speak a thousand words. There’s nothing better than the “power pause”, especially when trying to captivate your listeners with a story of bravery. You can lead up to something powerful, then pause while the girl takes it in and after a few seconds of silence, say, “But that’s not all…” Or

4. Drama and comedy.
Don’t be afraid to sprinkle some dramatic and comedic flair into your speech. If you’re talking about a goofy incident with your buddy, laugh along with it. When you laugh, it’s a cue for other people to laugh. Chris Rock does this all the time; he laughs at his own scripts, and it has the power of making his routine all the funnier. Likewise, if you’re telling a dramatic story of something amazing like rescuing people from a car accident, talk with conviction and suspense. It really goes a long way towards spellbinding women; they love a great story, especially a heroic one.

5. Use body language.
It’s not enough to talk with your arms beside your side and your butt on your seat. Talk with your arms, with your hands, your body language creating a sense of excitement. It’s a fact: enthusiasm is contagious. So show some enthusiasm with your vocal and body languages!

Finally, change your pitch. If things are going well, lower your pitch, give her your best Barry White. If you’re talking about a funny moment, a louder, more excited pitch is probably best. Recognize the mood and alter your voice to conform to it.

Congratulations! You’re on your way to making great impressions on great women. Recognize the power of speech and appearance, and you’re bound to succeed.

Don’t forget, if you want to learn more about making yourself unforgettable to women by making unforgettable impressions, visit my website at “How to Be Irresistible to Women.”

Now it’s YOUR turn!

James
Author of “How to Be Irresistible to Women”

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About the author:

James is the author of the latest edition of “How to Be Irresistible to Women PREMIUM.”His years of dating experience and international travel have tutored him in the art of meeting and seducing females the world over and introduces a worldly approach to dating and developing real relationships necessary for the modern man.

The “How to Be Irresistible to Women” package offers single men a dynamic and comprehensive tool-kit to attract women and establish an honest and supportive relationship. You can learn more about how to attract the woman of your dreams at:
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Review of FriendFinder

Review of FriendFinder

Subscription

As the name suggests, this is a great site to reconnect with old friends or to find some new friends where you live or some new friends from around the world.

Some of the feature of this site are:

• browse members
• email
• wink or flirt
• find geographically

Premium paid services

• web cam chat
• blogs

This site also support multiple languages including :

• Italian
• Spanish
• Portugese
• German
• French
• Chinese
• Tagalog

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Review of Asia Friend Finder

Find some fun Asian singles in Asia FriendFinder.

Subscription costs

Free to try

$14.88 for a one month membership

Review of Asia FriendFinder

This is one of the largest database of Asian Singles on the net with over 5million members worldwide and it likes to also call itself the Chinese Friendship Network. If you are looking to make new Asian friends or want to find some Asian Singles, this is definitely the site to try out.

This site lets you view the members on this site and also allows you to chat to members without having to pay for a membership.

As they offer a free trial, it is well worth trying out. Add a profile and a picture and see who else is online for you to meet. It supports Chinese language as well.

Asia FriendFinder is maintained by a large online dating company and has built up an impressive range of services on its dating sites. You will find all the functions that you would expect here like

• email
• blogs
• uploads photos
• upload videos
• wink or flirt with someone
• hotlist someone

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This review is pending.

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En ligne datant : Trouvant l’amour de votre vie en ligne

Aviez-vous essayé de trouver cette personne spéciale avec qui vous voudriez passer le reste de votre vie ? Si vous aviez essayé de trouver l’amour mais ne jamais avoir rencontré quelqu’un que vous vous pensez pourrait être amoureux avec, vous pourriez essayer un emplacement datant en ligne pour élargir vos perspectives. La chose la plus attrayante au sujet des emplacements datants en ligne est qu’elles peuvent t’offrir des possibilités sans fin en trouvant l’amour et en rencontrant les personnes intéressantes. Qui sait, vous pourriez trouver quelqu’un spécial de l’autre côté du monde !

Choix de l’emplacement datant en ligne droit

La clef à trouver la bonne personne en ligne est de s’inscrire aux meilleurs emplacements datants en ligne. Bien que la plupart des emplacements honorables exigent de toi de payer des honoraires d’enregistrement, les avantages que vous recevrez vaudront la peine beaucoup plus que ce que vous devrez payer. Si vous êtes vraiment sérieux au sujet de trouver l’amour de votre vie en ligne, vous devriez être disposé à investir une certaine somme d’argent sur des honoraires d’enregistrement pour obtenir commencé. Maintenez dans l’esprit qu’un des buts pour charger les honoraires d’enregistrement sur ces emplacements honorables est d’éliminer les caractères potentiellement indésirables à de tout droit des motifs.

Pour vous aider à trouver quelques bonnes gens en ligne, vous pouvez s’enregistrer comme membre d’un des emplacements datants en ligne honorables qui offrent « le service assorti ». Le service assorti de l’emplacement peut vous aider à trouver les personnes qui rencontrent les qualifications que vous recherchez dedans un compagnon. La plupart des emplacements datants en ligne qui offrent des services assortis t’offriront les noms d’écran des personnes qui répondent à vos exigences. Une fois que vous recevez cette information, elle l’appartient toi pour envoyer des messages à ces personnes et pour les engager dans quelques conversations intéressantes.

Combien le coffre-fort est-il dater en ligne ?

Il y a beaucoup d’emplacements datants en ligne qui t’indiqueraient que leur système est sûr. Cependant, vous devriez jamais simplement prendre le mot du propriétaire d’emplacement quant à la sécurité d’un emplacement particulier. Si vous vous enregistrez comme membre d’un emplacement datant en ligne, c’est toujours une bonne idée de ne pas fournir dehors n’importe quelle information personnelle quand vous établissez d’abord votre page Web. Quand la compagnie datante en ligne vous invite à télécharger votre profil, essayez d’écrire quelque chose qui est drôle et s’engageante sans donner dehors l’information personnelle telle qu’où vous travaillez, votre adresse et votre numéro de téléphone. En fait, si vous voulez vraiment être sûr, vous devriez ne jamais lui faire une règle pour donner votre nombre de téléphone et votre adresse à n’importe qui en ligne.

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Online Dating Advice to help you safely find love

While online dating can be a great tool in the search for love, romance and a soul mate, but you must be aware that it not unlike normal blind dates and take some precautions before you embark on this new internet journey. The internet has a lot of online dating advice which you should take into account of if you intend to use the internet as a new way to find love.  Finding the perfect match can be made much easier by excluding those who are totally incompatible, which an online dating service can help you do very efficiently.  If you take heed of the online dating advice, then you can safely assume that you will have a very fun and potentially succesful experience.

Choosing The Right Online Dating Service For You

Firstly, the most obvious online dating advice is to always try to select a well-known and reputable dating service that suits you and your lifestyle.  A good dating service will ensure your privacy and will not allow vulgarity or obscenity on their site at any time. They will have a lot of useful advice on their site on how to keep your information private while making an initial contact.  Also, their staff will be friendly and helpful when you are preparing your personal profile and/or your portrait for others to view. 

The staff will provide encouragement and advice on what to include and what not to include on the portrait of yourself.  Your likes, dislikes, hobbies and other interests should be a vital part of what the dating service will provide to you.  If you don’t know how to write a good personal profile, there are services who can help you with this, please see the other articles on this. A well written, truthful and amusing profile ensures that you get some good responses.

The membership size of the dating service that you desire to sign up with is an option that is totally up to your personal preference.  With a large dating service, you can benefit from a wide variety of people from which to choose and also a greater variety of locations as well.  With a smaller dating service, you may be able to obtain more personal service from the staff and a friendlier atmosphere in general with which to work.  The choice depends mostly on one’s unique personality and what you enjoy. 

The Smartest Online Dating Advice Is To Keep Safe

When you embark on your journey into online dating, it is wise online dating advice to follow some precautions as a general rule.  One should never divulge personal information such as their address, phone number, social security number or bank account to any person.  Nor should any other type of personal information be given which could be stolen, thereby helping to prevent identity theft.  Before you give out a private email address to someone you meet online, spend some time to get to know them through the contact system of the dating site first. When you have verified that they are bona fide singles like you, then feel free to share a phone number or email. Although online dating can be a great way to meet new people and potential partners, you must always be vigilant and not be taken in by scam artists and other people who collect personal information to use in criminal activities.

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Review of Shaadi Matrimony

Shaadi.com – World’s Largest Matrimonial Website

Subscription Price

Silver- 3 months – £29
Gold – 6 months – £49
Platinum – 12 months – £79

What’s Free

Free to browse, load profile, show interest, chat and send emails. All members get a free Vedic Astrology horoscope done. for them.

Special offers: Sign up for a Premium membership and you could win a car.

Review of Shaadi.com

This is not your usual dating site. It is a matrimonial site where all the members are looking for life partners and it the largest site for the Indian singles around the world. They are supposed ot have the largest database with over 2 million members worldwide, and have had over 600,000 success stories since they started in 1997 which you can read about on their site.

One truly unique thing about this site is that they offer their members a free vedic astrology horoscope. Then they can use the AstroSoulMate Search which will find them the best match by horoscope. There is even a Rashi Match (Moon sign – compatibility).

You can also search by community with the most popular being Assamese, Bengali, Gujerati, Hindi, Kannada, Malayalam, Marathi, Tamil, Telugu, Marwari, Oriya, Parsi, Punjabi, Sindhi, Urdu.

You can even search by religion; Hindu, Muslim, Sikh, Christian, Jain, Buddhist, Parsi and more.

The membership

a) Register and Express Interest in Members FREE
b) Free Instant messenger and chat
c) Free Video profile – 2-minute video can be uploaded
d) Free Photo Album – 3 photos can be uploaded
e) 600,000+ success stories
f) Astro profiles
g) World’s only matrimonial website with ISO 9001:2000 certification

One thing that stands out is the numerous ways that you can pay for this service and they include: all major Credit cards, Net Banking, pay cash at UTI Bank or UAE Exchange, mail or free pickup of cheque/DD, drop payment at Shaadi.com collection centers.

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Review of A Foreign Affair

 

A Foreign Affair Beautiful sincere women want to meet you.

Subscription costs

Silver :  up to 2 email addresses for $12.00 each.
Gold:   up to 10 email addresses for $9.00 each.
Platinum:  $95 Activation Fee, then $19.95 a month, up to 100 addresses
What is free: Free basic membership for women and they have a free DVD for their Romance Tours

Special Offers: n/a

Review of A Foreign Affair The number one foreign introduction Agency.
A Foreign Affair is one of top marriage introduction agencies for anyone looking for a bride from Russia, Eastern Europe, Latin America or Asia. This is the site for you if you are looking for a bride from the following groups: 

• Russian Women
• Latin Women
• Asian Women

It is a very comprehensive and informative site
• With a lot of advice on how to avoid scams
• how to obtain a visa to visit the women that you have met online
• They can organise phone calls with a translation service
• They also have an express mail service to deliver your correspondence to your chosen lady.
• Obtaining a fiancée visa

The signing up process.
The sign up process is easy, you can choose to either buy addresses individually or sign up for a monthly membership which gives you access for up to 100 profiles a month.

You can browse the site and search for matches by age, geographic location, height, weight and use keywords like sports.

Romance Tours or Individual tours
They are also the first to offer Romance Tours to all these places, St. Petersburg, Kiev ,Moscow, Volgograd, Kazan, Odessa, Crimea, Dnepropetrovsk, Kharkov, Nizhniy, Novgorod, Donetsk, Krivoy, Rog, Riga, Barranquilla, Colombia, Cartagena, Colombia Lima, Peru San Jose, Costa Rica.

A Foreign Affair has been featured a lot in the media, including 60 Minutes, TIME, The Washington Post, The New York Times, MTV, Discovery Channel, and the full-length Motion Picture, Two Brothers and a Bride, A Foreign Affair.
 

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A live telephone forum every Monday to answer your questions about foreign brides.

They have an inhouse lawyer to organise a fiancée visa for you when you have found that special someone.

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Find a husband after 35

Are you still looking for Mr Right? Are your dating strategies not working for you? Or don’t have a strategy ?

Maybe the problem has been that you have not been selling yourself effectively. See yourself as a commodity that you are trying to sell, apply some effective marketing strategies and have a plan. Then you have to work that plan.

Rachel Greewald is a graduate of Harvard Business School wrote this book, Find a Husband After 35: (Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School), applying business and marketing strategies to dating. 

The book has a 15 step programme and it is quite thorough in that you have to deal with packaging, branding, telemarketing and quarterly performance reviews.
This book promises that you will find a husband in 12-18 months. she says that you have to make finding a husband your top priority and you have to allocate a budget for doing this up to the point of having a separate account for this venture. You have to treat it like a business that you are setting up, with goals, interim performance measurements and metrics. If this sounds intimidating, she used this same system that she learnt from Harvard Business School herself and found her husband, so it does work.

Firstly, you need to tell all your friends that you are in the market for a husband and get them to introduce you to all their single friends. Then you need to find a married friend as a mentor who you will meet with regularly to ensure that you are on the right path.

Once you have improved your packaging by indulging in a string of self pampering and improvement sessions, you then have to create your ”brand” and then advertise this in as many places as you can.

This book does not have that many new tips to help you in that search for finding a husband but it does present it in a refreshing new way and with very helpful step by step instructions. If you are still looking, you should read this book and apply some of the marketing strategies, you might be pleasantly surprised.

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About the author:

Tiffany Lee is a webmaster and an author and has been an actively researching and reviewing dating sites for a while now. She is a single, fun loving city girl and being a succesful user of online dating services, she shares her experiences in the reviews on this site. She is a regular contributor to Online Dating Pulse, the best dating review site on the internet.

 

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