5 First Date Mistakes Men Make That End In Heartbreak and How To Avoid Them

Written By Michael Webb
Let’s face it­­you never get a second chance to
make a first impression!

That’s why, if you want to take things further with
a woman, you need to show her your best on the very
first date. And in actual fact, there are 5 things
that men consistently do on first dates that
totally destroy their chances of seeing the woman
again, and the worst part is they think they’re
doing it right!

Avoid the following 5 mistakes to increase your
chances of success on your first date:
MISTAKE #1 — BUYING GIFTS

Bringing chocolate or flowers on a first date isn’t
the best idea – especially if you’ve just met the
woman! She’s there to get to know YOU. Women are
always asking themselves “what does THAT mean?” And
in this case it’s, “He bought me flowers because he
likes me, but he doesn’t even know anything about
me yet! A little suspicious.
MISTAKE #2 — BEING MR. SERIOUS

When in the presence of a potential date, men often
become boring, instead of keeping up the friendly
vibe they have with their friends. They won’t make
jokes or laugh with the woman, they won’t play
around like they do with their friends and they
generally take things a little too seriously. Why
do men change their behavior around women, often
without even realizing they’re doing it? Because
they fear losing their only chance with the girl of
their dreams, they try and play the safe side,
which results in a “Mr. Serious.”
MISTAKE #3 — CONDUCTING AN INTERVIEW

When men become “Mr. Serious” they often fall into
“job interview conversation mode.” Make sure you
reserve questions like, “So where do you work?” or
“How many brothers and sisters do you have?” for
the future, after you’ve already had a lot of fun
and made the sparks fly. Instead, talk about your
hobbies, interesting stories and fun stuff. Avoid
anything too deep for a long period of time. On a
first date, it can make things a little depressing.
Talk like you’ve known each other for years (as if
you don’t need to do the awkward 20-questions
quiz.) Of course you can ask basic questions, but
never make it the main focus of your date. Focus on
fun.
MISTAKE #4 — BEING TOO NEEDY & DIRECT

Without realizing it, many guys turn their dates
off by trying a little too hard. For example: Men
will lean into a woman’s personal space, and ask,
“so do you like me?” or constantly change his
opinion to seek her approval and make her like him.
Big mistake. Ironically, it’s leaning back, staying
cool and calm, being a little cheeky, interesting,
mysterious and comfortable with yourself that
actually gets a woman’s attention and keeps her
interested.
MISTAKE #5 — GOING TO BORING PLACES

If your date finds the night boring, you’re
finished. When it comes to having fun on first
dates, nothing is more important than what you do.
And while dinners and movies are nice, it’s really
hard to leave a great impression in these settings.
Why? Because they set a very “proper tone” that’s
hard to turn into fun and playful. And unless
you’re a super funny, intelligent and interesting
guy, dinner and movie dates just aren’t the best
place to take your date. Instead, go to fun places
like mini-golf parks, carnivals, parks, or even
better, come up with your own unique and fun ideas.

So in essence, while there are many factors to
having a successful date, a great date idea really
helps you do many of them naturally! Remember,
where you take a woman on a first date can be the
difference between a great night and a dating
disaster! Choose wisely!
About the author:

Oprah Expert Michael Webb is the author of 300
Creative Dates, a book jam-packed with unique ways
to help leave a great first impression without
breaking the bank! To learn more, visit: 300
Creative Dates,

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How to Attract Women: How to Impress Women

by James, Relationship Expert

Renee Grant-Williams, a celebrity vocal coach, says, “The people we deal with in life come to know us by the three ways in which we present ourselves: (a) how we look; (b) what we say; and (c) how we say it.” Obviously, this applies just as much to women as it does to men. If not more.

So if you want to impress women, you’re gonna have to carefully think about how you present yourself. Let’s look at each category.

A. How We Look

Whether you like it or not, dress is crucial. It says a lot about you: whether you care about how you look, or you don’t. But you don’t have to dress like a Hollywood celebrity to look good.

Here are some tips on how to dress for success:

1. Get a female friend or sister to help you pick your clothes.
If you don’t know what to wear, get someone who does know! Ask a female friend or acquaintance to go shopping with you. She’s sure to be flattered, and if you reward her with a gift certificate or DVD, she’ll be all the more motivated to help you out.

2. Check out the latest styles.
Go to the bar or club and see what others are wearing. Observe what the guys who do well with women wear. Look in magazines and catalogues and see what it’s in style.

3. Wear what conforms to your identity.
Hey, if you’re the hardworking, businessman type, wear formal clothes that accent your career. If you’re the snowboarder/skater type, wear grungy clothes that accent your loose, laid-back persona. And if you’re really into music, don’t be afraid to express yourself with the types of clothes that rock stars and musicians like to wear! You can’t force a style upon yourself; clothes are a form of marketing, so market yourself like you would a product, in the way that best shows what you’re all about.

The same goes for your hair: If you want to convey a clean-cut, crisp image, then you might want to shave and cut your hair short. But if you’re trying to convey a rebel image, a goatee, long hair, and tattoos are probably in order.

And speaking of tattoos, don’t forget that they are an ACCESSORY that further helps you to market yourself. Tats, jewelry, and even hats are great ways to mold your image to the man you want to present to women. If you’re a snowboarder, for example, a wool hat says “Cool”. Or if you’re an aspiring rapper or musician, a doo rag has a place in your wardrobe. Consider the accessories that best conform to you as a person.

B. What We Say

Here are some great topics to talk about:

* Your dreams.
Let a girl know that you have a purpose and direction in your life, that you’re not a wandering bum!

* Funny stories.
Humor is a great aphrodisiac. Think about some funny things that have happened in your life. But make sure your delivery is good–more below.

* Her.
The Dalai Lama said, “Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes one creates as significant an impression by remaining silent.” Don’t be afraid to let a girl speak for a while. Be silent, but be interested. Actively listen to what she says. It’ll go a long way towards upping the attraction meter!

* Teasing/Playing around.
This is a great technique, especially if you don’t know exactly what to talk about. Throw in an occasional joke or funny moment. I have a friend who has a great technique for handling silence. He laughs to himself, prompting the girl to ask, “What?” He’d say in a sly way that would invite curiosity, “Nah, you don’t want to know. I’m in deep thought.” She’d respond, “Tell me! Tell me!” So he’d do the whole Meow Mix song (”Meow meow meow meow…”). It’s just one of many great ways to lighten the moment, and show you’re a relaxed, none-too-serious person.

* Last but not least, sex.
One relationship guru brilliantly says, “TALKING about sex is the first step towards having it.” Ask her if she’s a bad girl, or what’s the craziest thing she’s ever done in her life—with a bit of innuendo added into your voice. This isn’t the kind of stuff you want to talk about right away, but when things are going good, it’s great to show your “inner bad boy”. She’ll know what you mean, and get excited thinking about it.

Likewise, here are some topics that you SHOULD NOT talk about:

- Offensive humor. Chris Rock’s racial humor may be entertaining, but it’s not a good topic for a first date!
- Politics. There’s nothing to be gained by arguing over issues and parties.
- Past girlfriends. An absolute no-no. All you do is play a game that makes one of you jealous or suspicious of the other. Stay away from this topic, but if she DOES ask you about past girlfriends, talk respectfully about them so you don’t come off as an insecure whiner.
- Inside jokes between you and your friends. They’re called inside jokes for a reason–keep them that way!
- Anything that could be interpreted as geeky or dorky, such as science-fiction. Unless you know for a fact that she’s into science fiction and comic books, keep it to yourself for now. The last thing you want to come across as is a geek!
- Too much about yourself, your possessions, how great you are, etc. Bragging only makes you look insecure. Even if you own a yacht, don’t talk about it like it makes you any more special than her.

C. How We Say It

Of course, none of these topics, particularly funny stories, are gonna work if you don’t know to deliver them. Delivery in speech is crucial. People who have good delivery can make an otherwise dull story an exciting one. I highly suggest you read “Voice Power” by the aforementioned Renee grant Williams. Here are some tips she recommends:

1. Use consonants.
That is, accent your speech. If you’re talking about a great concert you went to, no one will believe it’s that great if you say in a monotone voice, “That was a great concert.” That puts people to sleep. Instead, say, “Man, that was a grrrreat concert!” The Tony the Tiger voice. If she says something, don’t say as if you’re bored, “Really.” Say, “Rrrreally?”, then, with emphasis, “WOW.” It works!

2. Don’t use unnecessary words and details.
If you’re talking about a time when you and your friends went to Cancun, don’t bother with the unnecessary details like the food they served on the plane, the wait for the taxi, or the sheets they used in the hotel. Get to the point!

3. Silence.
As Williams says, Silence does speak a thousand words. There’s nothing better than the “power pause”, especially when trying to captivate your listeners with a story of bravery. You can lead up to something powerful, then pause while the girl takes it in and after a few seconds of silence, say, “But that’s not all…” Or

4. Drama and comedy.
Don’t be afraid to sprinkle some dramatic and comedic flair into your speech. If you’re talking about a goofy incident with your buddy, laugh along with it. When you laugh, it’s a cue for other people to laugh. Chris Rock does this all the time; he laughs at his own scripts, and it has the power of making his routine all the funnier. Likewise, if you’re telling a dramatic story of something amazing like rescuing people from a car accident, talk with conviction and suspense. It really goes a long way towards spellbinding women; they love a great story, especially a heroic one.

5. Use body language.
It’s not enough to talk with your arms beside your side and your butt on your seat. Talk with your arms, with your hands, your body language creating a sense of excitement. It’s a fact: enthusiasm is contagious. So show some enthusiasm with your vocal and body languages!

Finally, change your pitch. If things are going well, lower your pitch, give her your best Barry White. If you’re talking about a funny moment, a louder, more excited pitch is probably best. Recognize the mood and alter your voice to conform to it.

Congratulations! You’re on your way to making great impressions on great women. Recognize the power of speech and appearance, and you’re bound to succeed.

Don’t forget, if you want to learn more about making yourself unforgettable to women by making unforgettable impressions, visit my website at “How to Be Irresistible to Women.”

Now it’s YOUR turn!

James
Author of “How to Be Irresistible to Women”

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James is the author of the latest edition of “How to Be Irresistible to Women PREMIUM.”His years of dating experience and international travel have tutored him in the art of meeting and seducing females the world over and introduces a worldly approach to dating and developing real relationships necessary for the modern man.

The “How to Be Irresistible to Women” package offers single men a dynamic and comprehensive tool-kit to attract women and establish an honest and supportive relationship. You can learn more about how to attract the woman of your dreams at:
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